Going to Colorado this weekend taught me a huge lesson. It taught me first hand that I am a pretty stubborn person and that I try to do things on my own way too much! I really thought this weekend would prove not only to myself but also to my family that I was strong and healthy enough to take my daughter to Colorado for her lacrosse tournament. Once again I was forced to learn the hard way by my own choices.
Although I had a ton of fun with Shaniah this weekend I realized just how grateful I am for my hubby and my kids for all they do for me. I know that my weekend would have been much more pain-free had someone else come to help me out.
Its funny but my mind still thinks I can run and do what I used to…. but my body quickly reminds me, by way of pain and breathing issues, that it can't. I do not however want to ever make my self think that I am giving up on trying to push myself. Sometimes pushing myself is good for me, but I realized this weekend that over-pushing can quickly set me back on all the progress I have been making.
After we got off the airplane my hubby was there to pick me up, boy was I glad to see him. He immediately took me to my chiropractor where she made some major adjustments on me and advised me to SLOW down and once again reminded me to enjoy when I feel good and not over-do and push myself over what my body can handle.
I know I struggle so much with this, because when I am having a good day and feeling halfway decent I really just want to dig in and do stuff. Whether it be fun stuff or work stuff, it just feels good to finally be doing stuff. I know that I have to continually remind myself to take care of myself so that I can be present and not in bed for my family. I know I have to slow down and enjoy the journey!
Going away this weekend really made me realize what life would be like if I were alone while having this illness. I am so eternally grateful for such an amazing family who are there for me each and every day. They deserve my gratitude each and every day for everything they are and everything they do for me!
Monday, June 30, 2014
Sunday, June 29, 2014
Like a Broken Vessel
Today when I woke up I was sure excited that we had decided a few weeks ago that we would allow ourselves to stay another day and not fly home until tomorrow. Thank goodness for thinking ahead!!! I would have never been able to make it home today due to the flare I caused myself these past couple days.
In fact, this past week has been very emotionally and physically draining on me as well. No sooner did we get back from our wonderful California trip, then we were once again challenged as a family.
My brother has been struggling with mental illness these past few weeks. It had really been very challenging and difficult for not only his wife and his, but for my parents, myself, my other brother as well. We have all tried to help him in any way that we can. We have taken him to specialists and counseling. We are realizing just how hard having a mental illness can be on an entire family.
Since this has really taken a toll on my parents, my older brother and I have tried our best to take over. I have prayed so hard this past week to be able to have the strength to help my brother and his wife. I have witnessed first hand the power of prayer as I have felt strengthened beyond my own on days when even I was amazed at what I could do. My husband and daughter were very worried about how much I was doing and was worried about my health. I knew the power of prayer was at work each day as I diligently asked for help to do what the Lord needed me to do to help them.
My mother was worried sick about what it would do to me but I told her just to keep on praying for all of us and everything would work out. I reminded her to replace her fear with faith and the Lord would strengthen us in our time of need. I witnessed this first hand this week and am so eternally grateful for the opportunity to be there when my family needed it most.
This morning as I lay in bed at the hotel I was watching a conference talk entitled, "Like a Broken Vessel" by Jeffrey R. Holland. I was so touched by this talk and remember it from this past April's conference. But this time when I watched it I couldn't stop thinking about my bother and his wife and the challenges of mental illness that they were struggling with. Just then I had the strongest prompting to send the link to both of them. My brother is in-active and my sister-in-law is a baptist. I tried to dismiss the prompting by saying I don't want to offend them, or I don't want to make them mad. But the prompting came even stronger this time. I knew what I needed to do so I grabbed my phone and formulated a text to each of them expressing my love and concern for them, and shared the hope and peace that this talk could give them if they would take the time to watch it.
I did not hear from either one of them for over an hour. I worried and thought, "I've done it, I've made them mad!" I felt a bit discouraged but knew I had to follow through on what I was prompted. An hour and half went by and I received a text from my sister -in-law telling me thank you and that she cried when she watched it. When I read that I started to cry. I was so grateful that she took the time to watch it and was able to feel the spirit while watching it. Another 5 minutes went by and my brother called me and thanked me so much for the video. He told me he really liked it and that he was taking it to his therapy group tomorrow to share it with them. He said it really helped him to know that having a mental illness is just like having a brain tumor or an appendicitis and that treatment is just as important to get for a mental illness as it is for either of these two diagnosis.
Today I am so grateful for the opportunity I had to share this amazing talk with my loved ones. May you take the time to share this with ones you know and love who may be struggling with some type of mental illness.
In fact, this past week has been very emotionally and physically draining on me as well. No sooner did we get back from our wonderful California trip, then we were once again challenged as a family.
My brother has been struggling with mental illness these past few weeks. It had really been very challenging and difficult for not only his wife and his, but for my parents, myself, my other brother as well. We have all tried to help him in any way that we can. We have taken him to specialists and counseling. We are realizing just how hard having a mental illness can be on an entire family.
Since this has really taken a toll on my parents, my older brother and I have tried our best to take over. I have prayed so hard this past week to be able to have the strength to help my brother and his wife. I have witnessed first hand the power of prayer as I have felt strengthened beyond my own on days when even I was amazed at what I could do. My husband and daughter were very worried about how much I was doing and was worried about my health. I knew the power of prayer was at work each day as I diligently asked for help to do what the Lord needed me to do to help them.
My mother was worried sick about what it would do to me but I told her just to keep on praying for all of us and everything would work out. I reminded her to replace her fear with faith and the Lord would strengthen us in our time of need. I witnessed this first hand this week and am so eternally grateful for the opportunity to be there when my family needed it most.
This morning as I lay in bed at the hotel I was watching a conference talk entitled, "Like a Broken Vessel" by Jeffrey R. Holland. I was so touched by this talk and remember it from this past April's conference. But this time when I watched it I couldn't stop thinking about my bother and his wife and the challenges of mental illness that they were struggling with. Just then I had the strongest prompting to send the link to both of them. My brother is in-active and my sister-in-law is a baptist. I tried to dismiss the prompting by saying I don't want to offend them, or I don't want to make them mad. But the prompting came even stronger this time. I knew what I needed to do so I grabbed my phone and formulated a text to each of them expressing my love and concern for them, and shared the hope and peace that this talk could give them if they would take the time to watch it.
I did not hear from either one of them for over an hour. I worried and thought, "I've done it, I've made them mad!" I felt a bit discouraged but knew I had to follow through on what I was prompted. An hour and half went by and I received a text from my sister -in-law telling me thank you and that she cried when she watched it. When I read that I started to cry. I was so grateful that she took the time to watch it and was able to feel the spirit while watching it. Another 5 minutes went by and my brother called me and thanked me so much for the video. He told me he really liked it and that he was taking it to his therapy group tomorrow to share it with them. He said it really helped him to know that having a mental illness is just like having a brain tumor or an appendicitis and that treatment is just as important to get for a mental illness as it is for either of these two diagnosis.
Today I am so grateful for the opportunity I had to share this amazing talk with my loved ones. May you take the time to share this with ones you know and love who may be struggling with some type of mental illness.
Saturday, June 28, 2014
Mother/Daughter Bonding Time!
Shaniah had her first Mamaci lacrosse tournament in Denver Colorado today. She played teams from all over the United States. There were many college coaches there to watch this tournament. They did very well for being a young team. Niah's team is made up of only sophomores and juniors in high school and they played against girls older than them and who already have college scholarships.
They won a team from California and Washington, but lost to a team from Oregon and New England. She had a ton of fun even though it was extremely hot. I loved watching her play but found out today what being out in the sun all day in 95 degree weather can do to my Sarcs. By the time I made it back to the hotel I could barely stand due to the pain and the exhaustion. I collapsed in bed around 7:00 p.m. and stayed there for 15 hours straight going in and out of sleep. Thank goodness for rest and relaxation and the blessing of recovery. I am also very glad that I did not try to fly out on Sunday and gave myself an extra day to recover. I thought I might need an extra day, especially going it alone.
This weekend was the first time since my diagnosis that I went out of town without my hubby to help. He had to work and knew he would not be able to get off this month in order to go to her tournament. My older daughter said she would go with me but I was determined to prove to everybody that I could go with Shaniah and that I would do just fine! I did prove that I could do it, but it came with a huge price tag. Next time I think I will ask another adult to go with me to help me drive when I am hurting so badly. It is days like these where I remember just how bad this disease can tank me and just how careful I have to be. I am still learning what things I have to change and that I need to take precaution and do things differently than I used to.
Although my body has been struggling, it has been very fun to have some special mother/daughter bonding time. At home, Niah has been so busy with sports, work, and friends that I hardly ever get to spend some quality time with her. I have really enjoyed letting the focus be only on her this weekend! She is a sweet, loving, and very mature girl for her age. She loves to have fun and is very adventurous. I am so grateful and so proud to be the mama of this sweetheart!
They won a team from California and Washington, but lost to a team from Oregon and New England. She had a ton of fun even though it was extremely hot. I loved watching her play but found out today what being out in the sun all day in 95 degree weather can do to my Sarcs. By the time I made it back to the hotel I could barely stand due to the pain and the exhaustion. I collapsed in bed around 7:00 p.m. and stayed there for 15 hours straight going in and out of sleep. Thank goodness for rest and relaxation and the blessing of recovery. I am also very glad that I did not try to fly out on Sunday and gave myself an extra day to recover. I thought I might need an extra day, especially going it alone.
This weekend was the first time since my diagnosis that I went out of town without my hubby to help. He had to work and knew he would not be able to get off this month in order to go to her tournament. My older daughter said she would go with me but I was determined to prove to everybody that I could go with Shaniah and that I would do just fine! I did prove that I could do it, but it came with a huge price tag. Next time I think I will ask another adult to go with me to help me drive when I am hurting so badly. It is days like these where I remember just how bad this disease can tank me and just how careful I have to be. I am still learning what things I have to change and that I need to take precaution and do things differently than I used to.
Although my body has been struggling, it has been very fun to have some special mother/daughter bonding time. At home, Niah has been so busy with sports, work, and friends that I hardly ever get to spend some quality time with her. I have really enjoyed letting the focus be only on her this weekend! She is a sweet, loving, and very mature girl for her age. She loves to have fun and is very adventurous. I am so grateful and so proud to be the mama of this sweetheart!
Niah played her heart out this weekend and loved every minute of it!
We also found some time this weekend to relax and get a mani/pedi just for us.
Friday, June 27, 2014
Put YOUR Oxygen Mask On FIrst
This quote pretty much sums up my week, I have felt torn in so many different directions this week. I have tried to be there for my daughter and son-in-law and help them with my grand baby while they have taught swim lessons. I have been in the middle of helping my extended family with my brother and his illness and trying to be there for his wife and kids. I have found myself trying to be there for my mom this week and doing what I can for her challenges. While all the time still trying to be a wife and mother and still enduring my own health issues.
Before having this disease I would have tried to do all of what I explained above alone. Thinking that I am tough enough or strong enough to be there and do it all for everyone at anytime! BOY having this disease has seriously shown me that I no longer can do any of that. I have learned that I can't go one single day without relying on my Heavenly Father to get me through all of lives challenges.
Having this illness I have found I have to safeguard myself and only do what I can do or I will be one needing the help right along with them. Although I am still in the process of learning it myself, I find it works better when I monitor my health and not allow myself to get too stressed or do too much. I have to take care of myself first in order to be of help to to others as I trust in God to help me stay positive and make it through whatever comes my way.
Tonight as Shaniah and I sat in the airplane on the way to her lacrosse tournament in Colorado I was reminded of just how important it is to take care of yourself first. As the stewardess was going over all of the safety precautions before the flight. She took out the oxygen mask and put it on herself first and explained just how important it was to place the mask on yourself first before trying to help others. This reminded me just how important it was to make sure I took care of myself before trying to be there for others. Sometimes in life we can get so caught up in the to-do's and trying to care for others that we might forget ourselves in the process. We still can do for others but not at the expense of our own health.
As the plane took off I marveled at this world and felt so small. The clouds and sky were so vast and I felt such gratitude for everything that my Heavenly Father and Savior Jesus Christ created for us to live in. I could only imagine that although I was so small I was still known and loved individually by each of Them.
As we were flying through a great deal of turbulence it was a bit stressful. You could feel the tension from others on the plane due to the complete silence. I thought of how we all were placing our trust in the pilots and hoping they could fly us safely to our destination. My thoughts went back to another parallel from this plane ride. Our Father in Heaven is our pilot and we have to trust him daily in order to navigate safely back to our destination. Without him we would stress, worry, and never enjoy life if we were constantly worrying about what is in store for us. As we trust in our Father in Heaven we can find peace, happiness, and joy through every trial, struggle or obstacle that comes are way.
Saturday, June 14, 2014
Last day of Vacation…..
The Fishing pond behind our Condo at the Welks resort
Dad, J'Dee, and Shaniah standing in front of the waterfall at the resort
Welks Resort
Shaniah, J'Dee and Me
After we left there resort we went to stay in Long Beach, where we decided to all go golfing.
The Girls at the golf course
Grammy and Landee
Love this little girl
Kisses for Grammy
LIke mother like daughter… cute hats
Friday, June 13, 2014
Just Another Day at the Beach
We spent another day at the beach today. We ended up going with our teens to Carlsbad Beach. It was such a beautiful beach. We loved seeing the dolphins in the water as we sat on the beach. We all rested in the sand and soaked up the sun and enjoyed spending the day together.
I loved trying to boogie board with J'Dee but found out the waves were so rough that my lungs had a hard time keeping up. I did play for as long as I could. I didn't want my pain to get in the way of me having fun with my son. We also drove up and down the coast of California enjoying all of the different beaches. We all agreed Carlsbad was our favorite today!
HAVING FUN IN THE WAVES WITH J'DEE
Me and J'Dee
J'Dee and I
J'Dee
DAD AND J'DEE IN THE SURF
Kim and J'Dee
NIAH JUST SLEPT AND TANNED ALL DAY
AFTER THE BEACH JUST Chilling with J'Dee
Bubble Baby
Landee loved playing with her new bubble machine
Thursday, June 12, 2014
A DAY AT THE ZOO….
SAN DIEGO ZOO
We had a great day at the zoo in San Diego today. It was a blast to be able to watch Ireland's face light up as she saw all the animals. I once again had to use a motorized wheelchair and I have to admit I would not have made it through this huge zoo without it. Even my kids were exhausted and needed a ride with me when they were tired.
THE WHOLE FAMILY...
Kaylee and the baby
THE POWERS FAM...
THE FULLER CLAN...
Landee loving the turtles!
Our little Otter
What is behind me???
Hi….
Just hanging around….
Bubba and baby!
Such a serious guy!
Kim and J'Dee
Wednesday, June 11, 2014
BEACH FUN….
Today was beach day. We all decided to spend a nice relaxing day swimming in the sun. We played in the sand, jumped the waves and then did some shopping and had a nice seafood dinner afterwards.
Funny thing though…. this was Landee's first time playing in sand. Her mom, Kaylee lathered her up with a natural sunscreen. The sunscreen was very thick and did not seem to rub into her skin. Grandpa took her and started to introduce her to the sand. She loved it until she started to eat it and then cried and fell backwards in it. When Kaylee picked her up she looked like a chicken that was just coated in shake-n-bake. HAHA! It was so funny!
Kaylee then took her to the ocean to rinse her off. She sat Landee down on the sand and waited for the water to come up to rinse her off. Just then a large wave came up and washed over the top of Landee. I was taking pictures of the eventful day and was chuckling at all the fun!
J'Dee jumping the wave.
Me and Landee having fun in the sun
WHAT A CHEESER!!!
Landee covered in sand and screaming after she tried to eat it...
THE WAVE THAT TOOK LANDEE OUT!
BABY TOES DIGGING IN THE SAND
J'Dee and Niah tackling their dad
Niah and me getting hit by a wave
Bubba, Kaylee, and Landee
THE GIRLS!
J'Dee and Landee…so cute
Kim getting back at the kids for dunking him...
CUTE PIC
UNHAPPY BABY!
HAPPY BABY after we got back to the condo….
I am resting from a very eventful day!
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